But why??

I didn’t know her personally. She is my maidservants(chechi) neighbor. Her name is Anju… 19 years old. Her folks were financially hmm…not well off… but just so –so..
Her father had a govt. job and had saved enough for his daughter’s future .and they lived an ordinary peaceful life like a proper lower middle class family..
But their lifestyle changed soon… her father had some health problems…they spend all their savings on his sickness but it did not help…
After her father’s death life was quite different.. I dunno why fate was cruel towards them..many of her father colleagues had spent their money gambling and the like …but he had saved for his family…but in the end they were left with nothing at all…

In order to support her family her mom started to work. She got a job in a temple… doing odd jobs there…
Soon after Anju turned 18 they became worried about her marriage… ‘they’ implies even the neighbors including my servant…

She was good at studies but that was not of importance to them…
I remember my servant chechi telling my mom about a very good proposal for Anju..My mom asked her abt the groom’s job…Servant chichi didn’t know..her reply was that his family has their own house and several cents of land..Another point was that the groom’s sister was married to a well off family.
Mom tried to convince her that these are not the required criteria…but to them it was all that what mattered…
The wedding took place soon…that was more than an year ago…
We do not know that family well other than them being our servant chechs neighbours… But Anjus mom comes home at times.. when she is desperately in need of money.. And my mom helps her..

Some time ago she came..she needed money for Anju’s delivery…

That was when we came to know about the rest of the story… Anjus husband had no job… He and his mom lived by selling her gold…and parts of the land they owned.. He abused her.. and said he was doing that out of love…he had no income…but had money …and hence frens who were good-for nothing’s like him… at times he goes to work as a cleaner in a private bus… other days he d spent time with frens in some bar or the womens college junctions …

Now Anju is at her house ..after the delivery..he wants her back to his place…
Few days ago when my servant chechi went to Anjus house …she saw him strangling her…She is woman of guts and strength …she kind of wrestled with him and saved the poor gal…
In the evenings this guy orders classic food from a restaurant nearby and eats it in front of Anju and her mom…not sharing a morsel of it.. He doesn’t take care of the baby ..nor help them in any way…

But ..
Yesday my servant chechi came to speak to my mom abt her daughter and how she shud get her married..this gal is just 20… She had an odd job at the place where my mom works…And is studying a part time course coz we insisted.. We tried to convince our servant to wait for some more time…. But no she was not convinced..

I cant understand why this is happening,,…. Didn’t they just watch a gal in a helpless situation…. Wudnt it make a difference if Anju was educated…. When will the system change???

Dreams...is it too late?

I do not understand why gals in India have to get married at the so called right marriag'able age.. Am 25 ...whoa.. most of my frens fro school and cllege are now happily married..so does that mean that have to be married too..??
Not that every1 I know keep pestering me with this question.. Maybe coz I jump around bubbly and happy all the time....
There was this colleague to whom I remarked that his sister and moi studied together... and he said ..oh u are 25?? then why arent u married yet...his sister s not married too...so not much of a hassle there :)
Marriage is not the issue bothering me though.. My dreams... and marriage stands in the way...
glaring at me...
Its partly my fault... I shud ve run behind my dreams earlier..but i did not...
This month is speacial...its been 3 years since I stepped into software...but thats troubling me now...Looking back at what I ve gained ...where I ve reached... I cant give a solid answer...
There was a time when I had my dreams... and they believed that I d make it big..
No.u got it wrong if u think am one of those students who always scored above 80 p.c for the exams.... No..I barely got 70.. coz 70 was the cut off for the campus placements...and thats me... :( I needed only 70...
But I was the first from college to get placed... :) To me it was a shock...
Those were the times when the industry was starting to recover from recession... and getting a job was good enough...
And then I stoped dreaming... Does it make any sense ? It doesnt .. but I went where the tide took me.. When others fought with their manager for better projects ..I didnt... When they left in search of better pastures I didnt...Family was important to me...My mom was important ... I stayed here..
Now..is it too late to aim high... Is it too late to dream??
Is my career on the right track.. ???

So..finally..Am gonna blog too...

I ve this desire within me ..for long..
To start blogging.. but ... maybe its the terribly pessimistic part of me in action... or its my honest understanding of the fact that I wont be good at writing..
Nevertheless am gonna try... to write..to flush out my mind... and I need to do that...